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8 years ago · · 0 comments

Do You Need To Be Rich?

Napoleon Hill wrote the book “Think and Grow Rich” over the course of many years. Written in 1937, it gave birth to the new era of self-help books that inspired people worldwide to make huge bets… on themselves.

If you’ve ever read the book, you will understand what I mean. Yet so many people think that “it requires money to make money.”

I’m here today to tell you the three things that will enrich your life, without having to spend a penny.

Education & Knowledge

We live in a world with tremendously powerful information at our fingertips. With so much information at hand, only ignorance stops us from learning.

The truth is, without spending any money what so ever, we all have access to sources of information that will make us incredibly valuable.

Be studious. Acquire knowledge. Set yourself apart from the crowd. Over the long-term, this sets you up for success, you become more valuable and will inevitably earn more money.

Skillset & Experience

Firstly, no amount of money will ever give you the skills needed to survive in everyday life. Practically, we need to be able to organise ourselves in a way that we set ourselves to live functionally, as part of society.

On the same note, we need to be able to control ourselves both emotionally and mentally, setting ourselves up for success both in our commercial world (work, careers) and personal relationships (family, friends, partner).

Our experiences in life shape who we come and ultimately: it’s all we have. Each experience can give you more meaning and purpose, or each can send you into a spiral of anxiety and depression.

Money? It can help a little, but your experiences will always triumph massively over how much you’ve got in the bank.

Goals & Time

Setting long-term goals and having the time to work towards achieving them? It’s a blessing in itself.

All of you out there reading this in your 20s? I speak for all of us who have proceeded into the later years of our lives when I say we would trade places in a heartbeat!

If you asked most eight-year-olds if they would trade their wealth (even if that’s billions of pounds) for their youth, what do you think they would say?

Money only takes you so far. But the power to enrich your life with thoughts and activities that allow you to achieve your true potential and live through magnificent life experiences. What is more powerful than that?

Somethings money just cannot buy. Do you want to increase your motivation? Let’s speak about setting goals so high that you won’t be thinking about how much money you’re making, but how many people you’re helping with your actions.

8 years ago · · 0 comments

Generating The Commitment

A recent thought on goal setting inspired this post. Imagine if your commitment levels were set by how much you were stretched by your goals?

As a life coach, I work with highly driven individuals. Some of whom want to achieve success at all costs.

What surprises me the most is not how high they set their goals, but how committed they seem to be to achieve them. It would also seem that the bigger the goal, the higher the level of commitment. The higher the level of commitment, the more creativity and energy that is created as you take steps to achieve those gigantic goals.

I have ten questions that I would like you to ask yourself about your goals. My guess is that right now, your goals are far too small to release the motivation inside of you to truly reach your full potential and achieve greatness.

  • Is your goal clearly defined and specific?
  • Do you have a solid understanding of your own motives and behaviours and why it is you want to achieve this goal?
  • Do you understand the full implications of the sacrifices required to reach your desired outcome?
  • Can you visualise what it would look like if you were to achieve your goal?
  • Do you have a long-term plan that is created to achieve the goal?
  • Are you doing something every day that contributes to achieving your goal?
  • Are those around you in your everyday life supportive of you achieving your goal?
  • If you achieved your goal, would you make the lives of those around you better?
  • When you think about your goal, do you become worried you won’t achieve it?
  • Do you have the skills you require to face up to the tasks needed every single day that accumulate in your achieving your goal?

 

Remember, these questions were thought about in the context of long-term goals that are meant to inspire you to take action. Set huge goals that you only dream that you can achieve. Set yourself a long-term plan to gather the experience, knowledge and skillset required to chase down your dreams and scale every obstacle on the way. Motivation will flow through you like never before when you set goals that take you outside of your comfort zone, and inspire thought on a completely new level of thinking.

 

How do you set your goals? Are you setting them right ones? Or they are simply another form of limitation that you are setting on yourself? Get in touch to speak about how we could transform the way you think about goal setting, and ultimately transform the way you live your everyday life.

8 years ago · · 0 comments

Avoiding Hell: Five Tips To Handling Life’s Hurdles

Tragedy can hit you anytime. Family members will die and those around you will undoubtedly suffer. Relationships fall apart, careers get stagnant and business (and people) often fail. It’s not how hard we fall, it’s how quick we are to get back up and rebuild our lives that really matters.

When these tragedies hit, it’s up to us. Do we make them worse, or do we help resolve them? Do we escalate the problem or find a solution? I’ve been working with a couple of clients recently who have been through some horrific experiences that they have had to admit their behaviour contributed to. The experience of working with these clients has given me some thoughts that I’d like to share with you to help you handle the hurdles we all inevitably face as we move through life.

Take responsibility for your contributions

How did you contribute to the situation? Did you do your best to uphold integrity in all of your decisions?

Whether it be a family bereavement or relationship break-up, we can all say and do things in the heat of the moment that we later regret.

Take responsibility for how you react to situations and circumstances. It is under your control.

Tell the truth

Lies fundamentally distort the psyche. Even small ones, that’s right!

It can allow us to justify it to ourselves and sometimes deceive ourselves into new perception of reality that aren’t based on substance or absolute truth.

Be sure to tell the truth in any and all situations if you want to be part of the solution, not the problem.

Become empathetic

You are not always right, and some things are just a matter of opinion. Having the ability to relate to others in a way that is not condescending or in contempt is the only way you can handle the hurdles that come in all areas of life with respect and dignity.

Learn to take a new perspective on issues and see things from another person’s point of view. We are all different, and that difference should be embraced.

Embrace change

Not only should our differences be embraced, but change should too. The “end” doesn’t have to be a bad thing, and there is always a silver lining – no matter how hard you have to look.

Being open to change and adapting to new environments is going to be a must-have skill for anyone who wants to be mentally stable in the coming decades. We live in a forever changing world, our problems twenty years from now are inconceivable at this point in time. There’s no way to know we will react to unknown issues, therefore our ability to adapt will reign supreme.

Think about the bigger picture

Take yourself out of your current situation for the second. What matters? In the long-term, how significant is this current experience or feeling? No matter what, there is always a tomorrow. And for most of us, we have years and years ahead.

Your situation may be difficult and your problem may be tough. Take a second out and consider how significant this event will be in ten years, it will certainly help change your perspective.

 

 

Have you recently been through an experience and feel it’s too hard to move on? Get in touch to speak about how we could discuss your problems in further detail.

8 years ago · · 0 comments

Three Steps To Overcoming Your Phobia

As a hypnotherapist, I often work with people who have phobias and fears they just cannot escape. As they realise how much this is affecting their daily lives, they come to me seeking help to alleviate the anxiety and stress that has been caused by the phobia.

Phobias are irrational fears that develop in a person’s mind. They could be of an object, animal or experience. Some of the most popular examples include;

  • Social phobia (social anxiety disorder) – the fear of social situations
  • Arachnophobia – the fear of spiders
  • Claustrophobia – the fear of confined spaces
  • Agoraphobia – the fear of open spaces and public places

If a phobia becomes too much, people tend to avoid that particular activity. If we take this into context; imagine having a fear of social situations, they enclosing yourself in your home to avoid meeting people. How isolated would you be after six months? How many friends would be like in a year?

This is often how people’s lives become isolated and lonely, escalating the cycle of depression and anxiety and can lead people into the worst of situations. And this can happen to anyone; phobias are said to be caused by traumatic experiences or can become learned behaviours through repeat patterns of abuse or unease.

Today I want to give some practical advice to those out there who may be suffering from any kind of phobia, helping you to overcome those irrational fears.

Step One: Recognise The Problem

What areas of life are your phobias affecting? Deep-dive into this. Is it your relationships? Your career? Your health? Whatever it is, how bad is it being affected? Is it becoming a more recurring problem, and is it affecting your daily life?

It can be hard for someone to admit they have a phobia, as these fears can seem very irrational to those around them. It’s an essential first step for anyone who wants to be truly rid of their irrational fears once and for all.

Step Two: Provide Meaning

What would it mean for you to solve this problem? That relationship you are consistently ruining because you can’t buckle up the courage to show up to dates? The ten minutes you waste every day walking up the staircase because you won’t take the lift? The experiences you are missing out on with friends because you’re afraid of heights?

How would you feel if you were suddenly free from all of that unnecessary stress and anxiety? To be able to confidently be yourself in any situation, to no longer be afraid to meet new people and socialise?

It can be priceless to those who want to escape their irrational fears or phobias. Attaching a meaning to why you want to finally make this change and become phobia-free is one of the most fundamental parts of this process. Let your emotion fuel you’re finally letting go.

Step Three: Face Your Fears

What is it you’re afraid of? Face up to it.

There is no better way than dealing with your fears than facing them. It’s as simple as you want to make it. Ask for support from those around you, but facing up to your insecurities and escaping your comfort zone is always the most effective way to cure any phobia.

The good news? It will get easier with time. The bad news? There’s only you who can do it.

Phobias can be debilitating. They can wreak havoc on your life like you’ve never seen before. If you need someone to speak to and want to seek help to overcome your phobia, then get in touch with me.

8 years ago · · 0 comments

Seven Ways To Relax That Still Serve Your Purpose

How do you relax? Quite often we can spend many hours of the week browsing social media or watching TV. Whilst this is not the worst ways you could be spending your time, it’s not the most productive either. For those who are high-performers and want to achieve in life, relaxing can be hard, it can make you feel a sense of guilt or shame. Highly conscientious people still need to relax, and there are plenty of productive ways we can learn to relax that still serve our purpose in life.

Reading

Reading educational or fictional books allows us to abstract and leave our minds, just for a little bit. Expand your knowledge means you are spending your time in a fulfilling and useful manner, sparking creative thoughts and stretching your imagination.

If you read a book a week in your specialism, you’ll have read a full degree worth of information within just one year. Within just five years, you’d be one of the most educated people in the world in your field.

Though not everyone needs to read a book a week, trying one a month would be a great start.

Listening to Podcasts

Audiobooks and podcasts within your particular area of interest is a great way to spend your downtime. Whether just for education on a subject of great interest, or to learn new skills and knowledge to push you forward in your career, a lot of my highly focused and high-earning clients choose Audible as a great way to learn, giving them to flexibility to listen to audio around their busy schedules (particularly whilst travelling or at the gym).

Meditation

Take a room in your home, give yourself some space. Get away from any distracting sounds. Breathe quietly in and out through the nose, while focusing on your goals and creating a vision for your future.

Sound cliché? That’s because it works. Meditation has many health benefits, both physical and mental. Practicing it daily can become an extremely productive part of your routine.

Writing

Take notes on your thoughts and feelings, but also keep track of your goals and how you’ve worked towards them.

At the beginning of your day, write down positive affirmations that help you visualise your future success. At the end of each day, write a short reflection on how you felt about the day, what you did to achieve your long-term goals and anything you may have learned.

Writing allows us to express our desires and articulate ourselves clearly. The power of that cannot be underestimated.

Exercise

If you practice exercising every day and don’t feel better after six months, I’d be surprised.

Stimulating both the mind and body, anyone who has ever been into fitness and exercise would most definitely agree an early morning exercise is by far the best way to start the day!

Family Time

Are you spending enough time with your family? I would highly doubt it.

Take away the smartphones, the time spent eating your family meals and watching TV. How much quality time do you spend actually speaking to each other and interacting with your family?

Put more thought into the time you spend with your family and how you regulate your time spent with family members. It’s precious.

Planning Your Future

Set goals and dream big. Why not spend your pastime thinking about your future and planning your legacy? What do you want to achieve? This can be a creative, stimulating task that allows you to embrace your conscious thought.

Do you want to spend your time more productively? Get in touch to speak how I could help you reorganise your life to become more efficient.

8 years ago · · 0 comments

Four Ways To Ascribe Positive Meaning To Your Life

You will have horrific tragedies in your life. There will be illness, death and misery around you. How will you handle it?

As we face the suffering of life, it’s often useful to find ways we can attribute meaning to our life that gives us the way forward and paves a path of light in the darkness we can often clearly see in the world.

Your Possibilities

What can you achieve? What does the future hold? The possibilities are truly endless, and capitalizing on the time you have left on this planet to achieve your dreams can be one of the most fulfilling life journey.

There are two ways you can be fixated in life; a fixed mindset or a growth mindset

If you have a growth mindset, you will see life for the possibilities and options that are available to you. And when you conjure this frame of mind, you can become who it is you want to be.

Your Family

How you live affects not only your life, but those around you. Anyone reading this with children will particularly relate to this, but it also extends to other areas of your family too – sisters, brothers, parents, grandparents, cousins, we all have those people who are close to us. To most people, family can be their most precious and sacred treasure.

Life can often become busy and if you are missing out on your family for other areas of your life, you may be feeling a lack of meaning.

Your Community

If you truly got your act together and structured your life to the point that you can adequately take care of yourself, your family and you can become secure within society, then why not take the next step?

Providing money to a charity is fine, but there is not better satisfaction that volunteering your time to a cause.

Find something you are passionate about, and pursue a greater cause. How can you better the community with your actions?

Your Legacy

The ultimate motivation technique.

What will you be known for when you die? Who will take about you, and what will they say? They are important questions to anyone who seeks to have a legacy and be known for something.

Thinking about death can be uncomfortable, but taking this perspective allows us to see the bigger picture. As time elapses we will inevitably pass away.

What will you leave behind? Will you leave behind sorrow and grievance due to a life of suffering or joy as you lived out your dreams in a life of meaning and virtue?

There is always a choice, you do control your own destiny. Often it’s only the successful people that like to admit it.

What will you be known for? As a life coach, I work with people who strive for excellence in their every day lives. Do you want to achieve greatness? Get in touch to find out how I could help you on your journey.

8 years ago · · 0 comments

How A Life Coach Can Help You Achieve Your Potential

We all feel lost and unmotivated at some point in our lives. Life coaches aren’t some elusive, omnipotent beings that have the ultimate knowledge. We are therapists that listen intently to your current situation and help you conceptualise how you could become more satisfied with your life.

There are many ways that I can work with people, and it’s all on an individualistic basis. Some people literally have one thing in mind, they want to stop smoking or stop a certain behaviour. Others are have become lost in a life absent of any long-term aims or goals, simply seeking new purpose and meaning in their lives.

A life coach should work on an individualistic basis. Everyone requires a different approach, and I have worked with people to assist them in solving a wide range of problems including overcoming depression and anxiety, battling addiction to boosting their confidence for sports and performance therapy.

There are some fundamental ways that I help all of them in very similar ways, which I wanted to share with you today.

Redefining your life purpose

What are you working towards? What are your long-term goals? What is your life purpose?

As you introduce yourself, we slowly start to discuss your life purpose. We go beyond listening to just the content of what you are saying, but what you actually want to convey.

We discuss core issues of your life that you want to change and areas of growth. We discuss deep areas of your life, touching on your life meaning, your personal growth and development. We discuss personal issues that bring you outside of your comfort zone.

This helps redefine and reinforce your purpose and keeps you motivated to work towards your goal.

Develop a clear vision

What do you want? Where do you want to go? Where do you see yourself in ten years? As a life coach, it’s my job to bring together a vision for the future you are looking to build.

Challenging your limitations and thought patterns by asking the right questions to evoke new levels of thinking, bringing to your attention different perspectives (the bigger picture) and allowing you to conceptualise your future, with a vision that is realistic, attainable and worth the sacrifice.

Developing a clear vision for your future is vital to anyone who is looking for the ability to take control of their life, their surroundings and provide the best for themselves and their loved ones.

Recognising your unconscious motives

Why is it you do what you do? What are the motives behind your behaviour? Have you got hidden intentions?

The simple answer is that it’s the habits you’ve instilled into your daily routine through repetitive action over long periods of time.

The absolute truth is that, we only have theories and concepts of how the mind works, and there are many different perceptions of your motives.

Working with a specialist who has studied those theories, from psychological theories from Carl Rogers, Carl Yung, Sigmund Freud, to Erikson hypnotherapy and personal development training from the great works in that field over the last hundred years, it can only be of advantage, right?

This helps develop a more thorough understanding of your motives, and even better than that analyse the underlying reasons of your behaviour and work together to change your thought patterns and ultimate behaviour and consequence.

Positive outsider influence

We are truly institutionalised throughout our lives. A necessary evil, school and later the workplace becomes our grounds of conformity and obedience. This becomes our social contract, we slowly become integrated into society, inevitably robbing us of our individuality whilst simultaneously giving us access to an infinite amount of possibilities in an extremely well-functioning societal construct we have in the Western world.

It has many advantages, access to education and having a clear structure within society allows us to function with minimal amounts of stress and anxiety. There is another side to the coin. Could this somehow cause us to become reliant on someone (or something) holding us accountable (a parent, a teacher and later a manager or boss)?

An outside influence that is working in the interests of your growth and development, holding you accountable for your actions and ensuring you are working towards your goals? It can be priceless.

I’ve helped people battle addiction and build better lives for themselves.

I’ve helped people build to confidence to take on new challenges, such as public speaking or within their career.

I’ve helped people create a life they only dream of, step by step at a time.

Could I help you? Are you looking for someone to help you take the next step? Someone who can push you to go further? Give me a call today for a free phone consultation on 07825599340.

8 years ago · · 0 comments

Setting Goals: A Mindset To Success

The only way to set yourself up for success over the long-term? Clearly define your goals and ensure that working towards them becomes the focal point of your life.

As a life coach, it would make sense that I promote goal setting. But I don’t simply promote goal setting. I promote goal setting that provides you with a real purpose. Goals that are well thought through. Goals with meaning. What are you looking to achieve? Even better, why do you want to achieve those specific goals?

If your goals are going to motivate you, they’ll have to be goals that frighten you. Goals that bring you out of your comfort zone, just by thinking about them. Helping your motivation levels, giving you a purpose, providing you with responsibility and a reason to carry on when times get hard, goals are extremely important for our mental and spiritual health, and I wanted to share some tips on how you can remain focused on them and create for yourself a mindset that attracts success and growth.

Visualise your future

Working towards meaningful goals is always hard work. It is paramount you have a vision of your life that would justify the sacrifice involved in chasing your dreams.

Visualise your future. A month, a year, a decade. What does it look like? Set the scene. Where are you? What are you doing? Think over scenarios in your mind.

Build a picture of where you want to be, and don’t worry about why. You will sort that out as you start working towards the dream.

Write your goals daily

Keep motivated by getting your goals written down. If you are wanting to be completely committed, writing them daily have worked wonders for many of my clients.

There’s power to taking pen to paper. Writing your goals down will help motivate you to brainstorm ideas on how you can achieve those goals.

Develop a long-term plan

Having a goal without a plan is like having carriage without an horse. You won’t get far.

Set yourself up for long-term success with a thoroughly thought out plan on how you will achieve your goals.

Hold faith and handle the burden

Achieving your goal is going to mean taking on the responsibility to live the life that you once dreamed of.

For those who think success is about sitting in a chair and smoking cigars, they’re sadly mistaken. Highly successful people hold the responsibility of not only themselves but often the lives of many others, and this means that there are ripples of consequences with every decision they make.

Take on the responsibility and hold faith in yourself at every obstacle. Do what it takes to achieve your goal and positive influence the lives of others with your action.

Commit and take action daily

Set goals and targets for every day, and work towards them. Stretch yourself, but don’t make them too exhausting.

You’re better to do two hours per day than try to work or learn something new for ten hours straight. Our brains are hardwired for a long-term perspective, we need it to feel fulfilled. Whatever your goal is, commit to the long-term and work towards achieving the goal in increments.

Do you want to set yourself up for success? Let’s work together to set you the right goals and put a plan in place to change your life for the better. Give me a call on 07825599340.

8 years ago · · 0 comments

Self-Awareness: Tips For Understanding Your Personality Type

Your personality type is a huge determining factor when it comes to how you interact with other people and the world around you. We have developed an excellent understanding of what characterises human beings, and the five-factor model is a great example of the knowledge we have of human traits.

The theory uses five broad dimensions to describe the human personality and psyche, which have been defined as openness to experience, agreeableness, neuroticism, conscientiousness and extraversion.

Understanding your personality helps you become incredibly more self-aware as an individual, preparing you well to structure your life in a way that helps you overcome your weaknesses and make the most of your strengths. It may also give you some more understanding into the motives of your behaviours.

How does the big five model characterise our personalities and explain our distinct differences?

Openness to experience

How open to new experiences are you? One of the traits is openness to experience, which defines how you react to new circumstances.

Those who are open to experience, it is said you’re curious rather than cautious. It’s sometimes said those who are more open to experience can be perceived as unpredictable or to be lacking focus, though it’s not all bad. There is also evidence to suggest those who are high in openness will be more interested in self-actualization by seeking out more intense experiences. This trait has been highly linked to intelligence (those high in openness appreciate the intellect much more and tend to seek more creative paths such as becoming a writer, artist or musician.

If you are less open to experience, you may be more conservative and consistent in your approach. Those who are more open to experience may be more spontaneous in their ideas and express themselves more creatively, they are interested in the discussion of ideas and intellectual discussion.

Learning how open to experience you are will allow you to consider how you make decisions. If you’re too spontaneous, you may want to put more thought into your decisions, whereas if you aren’t very open to experience you may want to consider how rigid you are in your thoughts and behaviour.

Conscientiousness

Have you often been described as easy-going or careless? Or perhaps people have called you controlling?

If you aren’t very high in conscientiousness, you are more flexible and spontaneous, which is seen as unreliability. If you’re a conscientious individual, you will be very orderly, self-disciplined and ensure there is a plan in your approach, which come across as stubborn or obsessive.

Conscientiousness is split into “industriousness” and “orderliness.” When looking at this trait, you may want to look at how serious you take your obligations, particularly those you have with other people. Are you too engaged, or do you often let people down too much?

Agreeableness

Do you go along with the crowd, or do you tend to defend your own position more?

People who are agreeable are seen to be kind and warm, they are empathetic by nature. The opposite could be said for those who are disagreeable.

There are lower-limit traits such as trust, compliance, modesty and straightforwardness, which make up how agreeable you are. Do you tend to hold you own ground, or do you go with the crowd?

Highly agreeable people can get themselves involved in the wrong situations quite easily, whereas highly disagreeable people may repel people due to their perceived aggressive nature. Think about how agreeable you are, and how that influences your social interactions.

Extraversion

This trait refers to the energy and how much you feel positive emotion. It’s very much defined by your assertiveness, sociability and how you are stimulated by the company of others.

Those who are extraverts are likely to be perceived as attention seekers or too dominating, and those who are low in extraversion (often referred to as introverts) are likely to be more reserved and reflective, which can be perceived as self-absorbed or aloof.

How much do you enjoy the company of other people? This will help you understand how extraverted you are. Understanding this will allow you to deepen your relationships with others tremendously, being more flexible in your approach to how extraverted you can become (or holding yourself back a little as an extravert).

Neuroticism

How sensitive are you to negative emotions? Neurotic people tend to be more prone to psychological stress, as they experience unpleasant emotions much stronger.

Anger, anxiety, depression and vulnerability are feelings we all come across in our lives. Your neuroticism defines how strongly you feel those emotions.

Those who are high in neuroticism tend to be more prone to being offended, which can make you a dynamic individual who is highly concerned for the needs of yourself and those around you but can be perceived as insecure. Those who are less neurotic tend to be seen in a positive light with their emotional stability, though can also be perceived as being particularly unconcerned.

It must also be noted that those with higher neuroticism tend to have less stable mental health.

Think about how harshly you respond to negative emotion. Are you easily upset, or are you seen as emotionally numb? These are either of the extremes, analyse where you sit in the spectrum.

There are many other models that try to explain personality, and it’s a forever evolving field of research. We don’t fully understand how dynamic we truly are as human beings, and the limits of our abilities are untold.

How does understanding your personality type help you? There are some distinct ways that I feel you can become a better functioning and more stable person by further understanding your personality type:

  • The choices you make within your career
  • Increase your self-awareness and emotional stability
  • Improve your relationships with other people
  • Make a change to the way you react to negative (or positive) emotion
  • Understand the reasons behind your behaviour
  • Take more responsibility for your own thought patterns and behaviours

Admit to yourself who are. Become comfortable in your own skin, and act with confidence knowing that you are unique in every way. Do you want to further your understanding of yourself and become more confident? Are you finding it hard to come to terms with your personality and how that influences how you react to the world around you? Get in touch for a free confidential phone call on 07825599340.

8 years ago · · 0 comments

Long-Term Perspective: The Journey To Success

How can you continue to strive for excellence in the face of constant struggles? How can you sacrifice the present for the future? How can you take responsibility for your own circumstances and make your dreams a reality?

A long-term perspective is generally considered a ten to twenty five year plan. It’s a journey to success that takes sacrifice, will, commitment tfor

Let me ask, when was the last time you seriously thought about where you will be ten years from now? Forget about a decade, I know people who have not considered what they will be doing within the next year.

Starting with the why and defining your purpose

What is you want? Why do you want those things? Are they things you will want in the long-term, or could they change?

We grow as people, we change and mature. Making a definite and decisive commitment to a long-term goal takes discipline, willpower and a strong sense of self. A true understanding of your emotions, intentions and ultimately your decisions will allow you to have the clarity you need to formulate and work towards a long-term goal.

Only by starting with your “WHY.” This is the emotional reason you will continue to sacrifice the short-term for the long-term and work towards building your dreams.

The ultimate sacrifice

Taking a long-term perspective is an ultimate sacrifice. You are putting your faith in the future, which is never guaranteed. You’re saying “The suffering I am feeling today, it will be worth it in the long-term – whatever that may bring.”

One positive to taking a long-term perspective is that gives you time. Time to prepare, plan, learn and adapt throughout the journey. Whilst relieving you of the stress of the immediate future, it also makes each experience and decision you make more purposeful and meaningful.

However, you would be surprised how much discipline it takes to make the sacrifices needed to keep yourself focused and engaged on a long-term goal and actually take action on a daily basis. How do people do it? There is no clear-cut answer on how these sacrifices can be avoided. Besides shifting your own mindset, there is nothing much you can do. A long-term goal requires sacrifice almost always.

Luckily for everyone out there with long-term goals? There are ways you can make it easier for yourself:

  • Visualise the life you wish to live often
  • Share your plans with your partner, friends and closest associates
  • Rejoice in the small victories
  • Learn from your mistakes quickly
  • Take action every single day (continue the momentum)
  • Ensure you always have actionable, practical steps towards achieving your goal
  • Be adaptive and allow your plans or goals to change as you grow

Living a life of responsibility and meaning

No reason will be big enough to continue to work towards a long-term with the absence of meaning, purpose and responsibility.

To give your best shot at life, to try to express yourself the most articulately and clearly as you can, to let yourself grow and develop in accordance to a long-term commitment? That requires a goal that influences not only your life, but helps to enrich and fulfil the lives of others.

A life of meaning provides you with the motivation to strive for excellence in the face of adversary. It gives you the reason to sacrifice the present for the future. It gives you the responsibility you need to drive forward with your dreams and make them a reality.

In short and to summarise, everyone wants a great life. The difference between those who build on their dreams and those who don’t? A long-term perspective. The ability to sacrifice the now for the promise of a better tomorrow. Requiring not only a huge amount of discipline but a clear vision of who you want to become in the future, there are three ways you can help increase the chance of success when you are looking to achieve your long-term goals:

  1. Start with the why and give yourself and emotional reason to continue
  2. Ensure you are aware of the sacrifices and hard work needed to meet your own expectations, and make actionable plans (and stick to them!)
  3. Adopt a life of responsibility to ensure your place in society is meaningful and worthwhile (by aiming to make the world a better place)

Are you looking to make a change? Continuing to feed your destructive habits in spite of the long-term effects it’s having on your lifestyle? Give me a call on 07825599340 to arrange a chat on how hypnotherapy and life coaching could completely change your life.